...The problem with workplace bullying is that many bullies are hard to identify because they operate surreptitiously under the guise of being civil and cooperative. Although workplace bullying is being discussed more than ever before, and there may eventually be specific legislation outlawing such behavior, organizations cannot afford to wait for new laws to eradicate the bullies in their midst. In order to survive, organizations must root out workplace bullying before it squelches their employees' creativity and productivity, or even drives out their best employees, thus fatally impacting an organization's ability to compete in this new era...Recent commentators have used different ways to describe bullying behavior, but they agree that a bully is only interested in maintaining his or her power and control. Because bullies are cowards and are driven by deep-seated insecurities and fears of inadequacy, they intentionally wage a covert war against an organization's best employees - those who are highly-skilled, intelligent, creative, ethical, able to work well with others, and independent (who refuse to be subservient or controlled by others). Bullies can act alone or in groups. Bullying behavior can exist at any level of an organization. Bullies can be superiors, subordinates, co-workers and colleagues.
Some bullies are obvious - they throw things, slam doors, engage in angry tirades, and are insulting and rude. Others, however, are much more subtle. While appearing to be acting reasonably and courteously on the surface, in reality they are engaging in vicious and fabricated character assassination, petty humiliations and small interferences, any one of which might be insignificant in itself, but taken together over a period of time, poison the working environment for the targeted individuals...
Bullying is not about a "clash of personalities," a "misunderstanding," or "miscommunication." According to two psychologists who have conducted surveys on bullying, (1) bullies use surprise and secrecy to gain leverage over those targeted, (2) they are never interested in meeting someone else halfway so trying to negotiate with a bully is useless, (3) they routinely practice psychological violence against specific individuals whom they intentionally try to harm which is devastating to the targeted person's emotional stability "and can last a long time."
From: http://gbr.pepperdine.edu/014/bullies.html
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Not bullied in academia, but in my experience true true true true & true. If it weren't for my refusal to give up my integrity I wouldn't have survived. And because I was ostracized by the people I hated anyway, I had plenty of time on my hands to put my energy into accomplishments I could put on my resume.
A protracted youth also seems to abound in academia and this, in my mind, is undoubtedly a part of why such covert aggression either thrives and/or goes unchecked and why is is enabled. There aren't any consequences for such people in academia; it's kind of like Lord of the Flies. What is right doesn't seem to matter as much as popularity. God help the bullied person who attempts to reason with a bully who has an agenda and is not to be reasoned with. And God help the bullied if they decide to explain to others why what they are experiencing is wrong. Doing that will only reveal your resentment and you will be blamed for being the victim because you cannot let things go! Extinguish the behavior by not reacting to it in ANY manner. That will in time put the focus on such a**holes because the group will have cognitive dissonance and will have to see the bully as thr aggressor.
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