December 01, 2012

Prof. Hassan Abdalla is still at it...

How do I recognise a bully:
  • Jekyll & Hyde nature - vicious and vindictive in private, but innocent and charming in front of witnesses; no-one can (or wants to) believe this individual has a vindictive nature - only the current target sees both sides;

  • is a convincing, compulsive liar and when called to account, will make up anything spontaneously to fit their needs at that moment;

  • uses lots of charm and is always plausible and convincing when peers, superiors or others are present, the motive of the charm is deception and its purpose is to compensate for lack of empathy;

  • relies on mimicry to convince others that they are a "normal" human being but their words, writing and deeds are hollow, superficial and glib;

  • displays a great deal of certitude and self-assuredness to mask their insecurity;

  • excels at deception;

  • exhibits much controlling behaviour and is a control freak;

  • displays a compulsive need to criticise whilst simultaneously refusing to acknowledge, value and praise others;

  • when called upon to share or address the needs and concerns of others, responds with impatience, irritability and aggression;

  • often has an overwhelming, unhealthy and narcissistic need to portray themselves as a wonderful, kind, caring and compassionate person, in contrast to their behaviour and treatment of others, the bully is oblivious to the discrepancy between how they like to be seen (and believe they are seen), and how they are actually seen;

  • has an overbearing belief in their qualities of leadership but cannot distinguish between leadership (maturity, decisiveness, assertiveness, trust and integrity) and bullying (immaturity, impulsiveness, aggression, distrust and deceitfulness);

  • when called to account, immediately and aggressively denies everything, then counter-attacks with distorted or fabricated criticisms and allegations; if this is insufficient, quickly feigns victimhood, often by bursting into tears (the purpose is to avoid answering the question and thus evade accountability by manipulating others through the use of guilt);

  • is also ... aggressive, devious, manipulative, spiteful, vengeful, doesn't listen, can't sustain mature adult conversation, lacks a conscience, shows no remorse, is drawn to power, emotionally cold and flat, humourless, joyless, ungrateful, dysfunctional, disruptive, divisive, rigid and inflexible, selfish, insincere, insecure, immature and deeply inadequate, especially in interpersonal skills.
From: http://www.bullyonline.org/workbully/amibeing.htm

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

He must have a clone out there somewhere as the last department head I had while I was teaching had almost the same characteristics. One reason he was able to get away with his shenanigans was that he had the backing of the dean and the department's assistant head.

Bullies like these chaps seldom operate alone. They need someone to support them as they don't feel that they can initiate a winning action on their own.

Anonymous said...

Why are there so many psychopathic bullies in academia? The structures that exist to support them needs to break down, so that these bullies & the "power" and "authority" that they crave cannot survive in an environment that has zero tolerance for them. It's only a matter of time before these bullies get their karmic retribution. More importantly, let's pray for the time when no-one in academia has to suffer from these psychopathic bullies in silence, and at all.